Allow Love

Hello lovelies,

WHY PEOPLE DON’T ALLOW LOVE:

1. PAST HURTS
2. FEAR
3. PEOPLE
4. UNFORGIVENESS
5. EXCUSES

Today we’re talking about why people do not allow themselves to be loved. People brush off the topic of love once a relationship doesn’t work out or they have experienced some form of betrayal. The thing is, there’s no perfect human but there’s a human for you who will make it all worth it.

PAST HURTS: Sometimes relationships do not work out or you are betrayed by the one your heart loves the most. That shouldn’t stop you from loving again. As human as we are, we’re prone to hurting others and vice versa but that shouldn’t come in the way of your happiness and allowing yourself to be loved again.

FEAR: I can’t promise you won’t get hurt. Neither can I say there will be no hesitation. Believe me, the hurt you feel is acknowledged and no one is saying your emotions don’t matter. They do but the point is to not dwell on them forever. It took time for me to accept this. I have been hurt before in relationships and I have hurt others as well. It took time for me to know everyone heals differently. You heal faster post-breakup in some relationships than others. In some, you clean your tears, gear up, take in all the hurts then you let it all go.

PEOPLE: It’s okay to cry but when you’re done, dust yourself off and move on. Stop giving yourself too many excuses. Stop thinking about what others will say if you let yourself love again. Stop worrying about those who have created a timeline for you. Stop being too hard on yourself. People are always ready to talk, always ready to have an opinion but you’re the one to live the life you choose and bare the consequences of your decision. Always remember that no-one is responsible for your happiness but you. Do not base your life on people.

UNFORGIVENESS: Holding on to past hurts will not allow you move on. It’s easier said than done but this is essential if you’re going to move on. You can’t create a new life by holding on to the old one. When you’ve not forgiven, you create an impossible standard for the next person in your life who had no hand in causing you any hurt and they will surely fall below the standard you’ve created. By all means, learn from your mistakes but forgive and start afresh.

EXCUSES: This right here…. lol! We sugar coat the excuses with some loving and empowering words like, “I am on a journey”, “I am building myself”, etc. Mind you these statements might be true but mostly they’re excuses because people hang on to these statements for too long and let good people pass them by. These excuses give us the strength to hide in plain sight.

My little tip for you is this.Pray! Allow yourself to heal! Allow yourself to love again! God has someone for you, perfectly suited to you. Stop forcing what isn’t working because you want to belong! Stop dwelling on what didn’t work. Stop pointing fingers. Start looking inward. Know what you want. Know who you are. Love yourself so you can be loved. Then allow love!